CANCELATION OF NON-BINARY GROUP
THE NON-BINARY GROUP HAS BEEN CANCELLED FOR THURSDAY 5TH OF SEPTEMBER
The Non-Binary group will be cancelled tomorrow the 5th of September due to the facilitator being ill we are sorry for any inconvenience.
SUPPORT GROUPS
About our support groups
The Gender Centre organises and facilitates a range of groups for our community including:
- Transtopia support groups for gender questioning youth or youth in transition (12-17)
- Partners Support Group for partners of trans and gender diverse people
- TGD Parents Support Group for parents of trans & gender diverse youth
- Over 40s Support group for transgender, gender diverse and gender questioning people
- Young Women’s Support Group for people who identify as transgender female or questioning aged between 25 and 39.
- Non-binary Support for people who identify anywhere within the gender variant spectrum and are over 18
- FTM Connect for those who identify as transgender male or questioning and aged from 17 and above
These groups provide support and access to resources and community, from diverse gender specific groups including transgender questioning, neutral, non-binary dealing with specific issues or aspects of transition providing a safe supportive space to connect and be themselves.
Please click on the topics below to learn more about each group.
Bookings are essential for all groups, as numbers are usually limited. Keep an eye on this website to learn of upcoming groups or simply call the Gender Centre on (02) 9569 2366 to enquire or to reserve your seat at a future group.
FTM CONNECT (17 AND UP)
- FRIDAY FEBRUARY 2ND
- FRIDAY MARCH 1ST
- FRIDAY APRIL 5TH
- FRIDAY MAY 3RD
- FRIDAY JUNE 7TH
- FRIDAY JULY 5TH
- FRIDAY AUGUST 2ND
- FRIDAY SEPTEMBER 6TH
- FRIDAY OCTOBER 4TH
- FRIDAY NOVEMBER 1ST
- FRIDAY DECEMBER 6TH
YOUNG ADULTS (18 – 24)
- Monday February 26th
- Friday 22th March
- Friday 26th April
- Friday 31st May
- Friday 28th June
- Friday 26th July
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Friday 30th August
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Friday 27th September
- Friday 25th October
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Friday 29th November
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Friday 20th December
METRO PARENTS & DISTANCE GROUP
- MONDAY FEBRUARY 12TH
- MONDAY MARCH 11TH
- MONDAY APRIL 8TH
- MONDAY MAY 13TH
- MONDAY JUNE 17TH (3rd week of June, due to school holidays)
- MONDAY JULY 8TH
- MONDAY AUGUST 12TH
- MONDAY SEPTEMBER 16TH
- MONDAY OCTOBER 14TH
- MONDAY NOVEMBER 11TH
- MONDAY DECEMBER 9TH
It was never on my radar that my daughter could be transgender or that one day when she was in her early twenties my life would be turned completely upside down. I cannot remember clearly how my daughter told me she was a boy, or whether she used the word transgender. The panic and fear that I felt at that moment, thinking there must be something terribly wrong with my child, has wiped some of my memories of that day. But I will never forget the anguish I saw in my child’s face. I knew whatever she was struggling with, was massive.
I didn't know what I should do and I turned to a diagnostic manual for information. At that time it was the DSM IV. I looked up gender and I came away worried that my daughter could be suffering a serious disorder and be mentally ill. I saw a psychologist specialising in gender issues and I told her about my daughter and how she had always behaved and dressed like a girl. But I also told her about the distress my child felt during puberty, her anxiety and discomfort with her female anatomy and of her breast binding. The psychologist said she believed my child could be transgender.
Use your child’s preferred name and pronouns. In the beginning you may find this very difficult but continued resistance could damage your relationship with your child.
Show support and a willingness to understand her or his experience. Whatever your child’s age he or she wants and needs your acceptance.
Connect with a parents’ support group. When you need support or comfort or reassurance about your child’s future, don’t look for that from your child.
Not all transgender people are the same. Not everyone transitions, not everyone takes hormones and not everyone has surgery. Some transgender people pass in their affirmed gender and some do not and some don’t feel they need to try. There is no right or wrong way to be transgender.
Reassure your child
Communicate that you love and support your child no matter what. Encourage your child to be the person he or she is.
Help your child connect to age-appropriate trans-positive places and people
If your child is seeking a connection with other transgender or gender diverse people, contact appropriate services for social and support groups.
Adapt to pronoun and name changes
Practise and apologise when you make a mistake. It all gets easier with time and shows respect for your child..
Be an advocate
Be a proud parent. Do not approach your child’s diversity with a sense of shame.
- Take a deep breath.
- Remember you are not alone.
- Get support.
- Allow yourself to feel sad but do not let it overwhelm you so you can’t help your child.
- If your feelings are overwhelming you, seek professional help.
- Be kind to yourself and recognise that you will make mistakes.
- Do not beat yourself up.
- You may need to unlearn and unpack a number of preconceived ideas and beliefs – it helps to talk to people.
Transcend 40 (Changed from Over 40s)
- MONDAY JANUARY 29th
- MONDAY FEBRUARY 26th
- MONDAY MARCH 25th
- MONDAY APRIL 29th
- MONDAY MAY 28th
- MONDAY JUNE 24th
- MONDAY JULY 29th
- MONDAY AUGUST 26th
- MONDAY SEPTEMBER 30th
- MONDAY OCTOBER 28th
- MONDAY NOVEMBER 25th
(All meetings are the last Monday of each month, except for December due to holiday closure).
Partners
NON-BINARY (18 AND UP)
Dates for 2024:
- THURSDAY FEBRUARY 1ST
- THURSDAY MARCH 14TH
- THURSDAY APRIL 4TH
- THURSDAY MAY 2ND
- THURSDAY JUNE 6TH
- THURSDAY JULY 4TH
- THURSDAY AUGUST 1ST
- THURSDAY SEPTEMBER 5TH-----GROUP HAS BEEN CANCELLED FOR THIS MONTH
- THURSDAY OCTOBER 3RD
- THURSDAY NOVEMBER 14TH
- THURSDAY DECEMBER 5TH
TRANSTOPIA YOUTH (12 -17)
WHEN AND WHERE?
Transtopia runs once a month on a Thursday from 4pm to 6pm at our Marrickville office (10 Lilydale St, Marrickville)
DO I Need to RSVP?
No. But if you have any questions, please email Viola directly – This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.
**if you are under 16 we request that you have your parent or guardian complete the attached form below**
UNDER 16 TANSTOPIA CONSENT FORM
What time does the group meet?
4pm to 6pm
Dates for 2024:
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THURSDAY FEBRUARY 8TH
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THURSDAY MARCH 7TH
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THURSDAY APRIL 11TH
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THURSDAY MAY 9ND
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THURSDAY JUNE 13TH
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THURSDAY JULY 11TH
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THURSDAY AUGUST 8ST
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THURSDAY SEPTEMBER 12TH
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THURSDAY OCTOBER 10TH
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THURSDAY NOVEMBER 7TH
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THURSDAY DECEMBER 12TH
ABOUT TRANSTOPIA GROUP:
WOLLONGONG PARENTS
- WEDNESDAY FEBURARY 7TH
- WEDNESDAY MARCH 6TH
- WEDNESDAY APRIL 3RD
- WEDNESDAY MAY 1ST
- WEDNESDAY JUNE 5TH
- WEDNESDAY JULY 3RD
- WEDNESDAY AUGUST 7TH
- WEDNESDAY SEPTEMBER 4TH
- WEDNESDAY OCTOBER 2ND
- WEDNESDAY NOVEMBER 6TH
- WEDNESDAY DECEMBER 4TH
It was never on my radar that my daughter could be transgender or that one day when she was in her early twenties my life would be turned completely upside down. I cannot remember clearly how my daughter told me she was a boy, or whether she used the word transgender. The panic and fear that I felt at that moment, thinking there must be something terribly wrong with my child, has wiped some of my memories of that day. But I will never forget the anguish I saw in my child’s face. I knew whatever she was struggling with, was massive.
I didn't know what I should do and I turned to a diagnostic manual for information. At that time it was the DSM IV. I looked up gender and I came away worried that my daughter could be suffering a serious disorder and be mentally ill. I saw a psychologist specialising in gender issues and I told her about my daughter and how she had always behaved and dressed like a girl. But I also told her about the distress my child felt during puberty, her anxiety and discomfort with her female anatomy and of her breast binding. The psychologist said she believed my child could be transgender.
For a long time I fell into a deep abyss. I worried about my child's future, how difficult her life would be and how badly she would be treated. How could I ever keep her safe? What had I done to cause this? How had I not known? I fluctuated between denial, fear, depression and guilt. In those early troubled years it was hard for me to see that I could get to the place I am now, or to see that I would gain so much from the journey. I have a transgender son and I am enormously proud of him. I feel positive about his future and all of his potential. He is interesting, inspiring and courageous and I fully embrace him as my son.
The reason I am sharing my story is because I want you to know that it does get better! You will come to a place of acceptance. You will get used to the new name and pronouns. You will feel proud of your child and positive about the future. You will feel confident that your child will find happiness and love. You will learn that your transgender child is a natural part of human diversity.
Use your child’s preferred name and pronouns. In the beginning you may find this very difficult but continued resistance could damage your relationship with your child.
Show support and a willingness to understand her or his experience. Whatever your child’s age he or she wants and needs your acceptance.
Connect with a parents’ support group. When you need support or comfort or reassurance about your child’s future, don’t look for that from your child.
Not all transgender people are the same. Not everyone transitions, not everyone takes hormones and not everyone has surgery. Some transgender people pass in their affirmed gender and some do not and some don’t feel they need to try. There is no right or wrong way to be transgender.
Reassure your child
Communicate that you love and support your child no matter what. Encourage your child to be the person he or she is.
Help your child connect to age-appropriate trans-positive places and people
If your child is seeking a connection with other transgender or gender diverse people, contact appropriate services for social and support groups.
Adapt to pronoun and name changes
Practise and apologise when you make a mistake. It all gets easier with time and shows respect for your child..
Be an advocate
Be a proud parent. Do not approach your child’s diversity with a sense of shame.
Remember you are not alone.
Get support.
Allow yourself to feel sad but do not let it overwhelm you so you can’t help your child.
If your feelings are overwhelming you, seek professional help.
Be kind to yourself and recognise that you will make mistakes.
Do not beat yourself up.
You may need to unlearn and unpack a number of preconceived ideas and beliefs – it helps to talk to people.
YOUNG WOMEN'S (25-39)
- WEDNESDAY JANUARY 31ST
- WEDNESDAY FEBURARY 28TH
- WEDNESDAY MARCH 27TH
- WEDNESDAY APRIL 24TH
- WEDNESDAY MAY 29TH
- WEDNESDAY JUNE 26TH
- WEDNESDAY JULY 31ST
- WEDNESDAY AUGUST 28TH
- WEDNESDAY SEPTEMBER 25TH
- WEDNESDAY OCTOBER 30TH
- WEDNESDAY NOVEMBER 27TH