Parents of Transgender, Gender Diverse Youth Support Group
Your child is questioning his or her gender. Maybe you're feeling shocked and overwhelmed by the news or fearful for your child's future. Maybe you have no idea on what you're feeling. There must be a thousand different questions running through you're head. The Gender Centre runs a monthly parents of transgender youth support group with a trainied facilitator, guest speakers and lots of parents who are there to help you, and answer some of these questions Its all free, you dont need to book just come along.
All PARENTS OF TRANSGENDER AND GENDER QUESTIONING YOUTH are invited to come and be part of these support nights.
The parents support group meets on the second Monday of each month except January
Dates for 2018 February 12 • March 12 • April 9 • May 7 • June 4 ( 1 week early due to the long weekend)• July 9 • August 13 • September 10 • October 8 • November 12 • December 10
Hi all the Gender Centre is in the process of developing its new , 3 year strategic plan and is requiring your feedback on the service,…. what the service does well,…. improvements? and where the service should place its strategic priorities over the next three years. Zed Tintor has been employed by the centre to undertake this process, Zed will be attending the next Metro Parents support group which is on Tuesday Feb 12th. Zed would like to meet with you all before the parents group begins from 6 to 6.30 for consumer consultation.... The regular parents group will then start at 6.30 with a guest speaker Thank You
First Steps a resource of shared stories and information from parents and caregivers of transgender youth
First Steps "shared stories from parents and caregivers
It was never on my radar that my daughter could be transgender or that one day when she was in her early twenties my life would be turned completely upside down. I cannot remember clearly how my daughter told me she was a boy, or whether she used the word transgender. The panic and fear that I felt at that moment, thinking there must be something terribly wrong with my child, has wiped some of my memories of that day. But I will never forget the anguish I saw in my child’s face. I knew whatever she was struggling with, was massive.
I didn't know what I should do and I turned to a diagnostic manual for information. At that time it was the DSM IV. I looked up gender and I came away worried that my daughter could be suffering a serious disorder and be mentally ill. I saw a psychologist specialising in gender issues and I told her about my daughter and how she had always behaved and dressed like a girl. But I also told her about the distress my child felt during puberty, her anxiety and discomfort with her female anatomy and of her breast binding. The psychologist said she believed my child could be transgender.
For a long time I fell into a deep abyss. I worried about my child's future, how difficult her life would be and how badly she would be treated. How could I ever keep her safe? What had I done to cause this? How had I not known? I fluctuated between denial, fear, depression and guilt. In those early troubled years it was hard for me to see that I could get to the place I am now, or to see that I would gain so much from the journey. I have a transgender son and I am enormously proud of him. I feel positive about his future and all of his potential. He is interesting, inspiring and courageous and I fully embrace him as my son.
The reason I am sharing my story is because I want you to know that it does get better! You will come to a place of acceptance. You will get used to the new name and pronouns. You will feel proud of your child and positive about the future. You will feel confident that your child will find happiness and love. You will learn that your transgender child is a natural part of human diversity.
Tips for parents
Use your child’s preferred name and pronouns. In the beginning you may find this very difficult but continued resistance could damage your relationship with your child.
Show support and a willingness to understand her or his experience. Whatever your child’s age he or she wants and needs your acceptance.
Connect with a parents’ support group. When you need support or comfort or reassurance about your child’s future, don’t look for that from your child.
Not all transgender people are the same. Not everyone transitions, not everyone takes hormones and not everyone has surgery. Some transgender people pass in their affirmed gender and some do not and some don’t feel they need to try. There is no right or wrong way to be transgender.
If your child is transgender that does not mean there is something “wrong” with him or her. Learn all you can and be an advocate and champion for your child. .
What can you do for your child
Reassure your child
Communicate that you love and support your child no matter what. Encourage your child to be the person he or she is.
Help your child connect to age-appropriate trans-positive places and people
If your child is seeking a connection with other transgender or gender diverse people, contact appropriate services for social and support groups.
Adapt to pronoun and name changes
Practise and apologise when you make a mistake. It all gets easier with time and shows respect for your child..
Be an advocate
Be a proud parent. Do not approach your child’s diversity with a sense of shame.
What can you do for yourself
Take a deep breath.
Remember you are not alone.
Allow yourself to feel sad but do not let it overwhelm you so you can’t help your child.
If your feelings are overwhelming you, seek professional help.
Be kind to yourself and recognise that you will make mistakes.
Do not beat yourself up.
You may need to unlearn and unpack a number of preconceived ideas and beliefs – it helps to talk to people.
Group dates for 2018
February 12 • March 13 • April 9 • May 14 • June 5 ( 1 week early due to the long weekend)• July 9 • August 13 • September 10 • October 8 • November 12 • December 10
Where do we meet
- Telephone: +612 9569-2366