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Personal Stories

personal storiesLearning from those who have gone before can be a great way to ease anxiety levels and reduce the isolation that one may feel while questioning their gender options or even while in transition. Reading personal stories of other guys at different stages of transition, learning how others have dealt with issues like disclosing one's intentions to loved ones, coping with relationship issues, hormone issues, learning to live with increased aggression and libido or discussing surgery options or just getting along in the wider community.

Mentors can be hard to find but fortunately a number of trans guys have put pen to paper and shared their experiences, their thoughts, and their concerns in an attempt to make life easier for those who follow in their footsteps and encounter similar issues to the ones that they have in the past. This kind of peer support can be terribly important to a transitioning transman. We remain very grateful to those that have shared their stories.

Support Information is available for download from The Gender Centre, and are available in PDF format. You will need Adobe Acrobat Reader or similar to view and print P.D.F. files. If you don't have Acrobat Reader you can download it for free at the Adobe website.

NEWFOUND STRENGTH AND INNER PEACE

Article appeared in Polare 37, June 2000

All my life I felt like a stranger, not understanding what I was feeling, an empty feeling inside, searching for who I truly am. I tried to be as masculine as I could. I was the first girl in my school to take auto mechanics, the first to be expelled for wearing slacks ...

ANDREW STOPS FIGHTING HIS OWN SHADOW

Article appeared in Polare 36, April 2000

Andrew's story is different from others that he's read in that he was fighting with his own shadow. For most of his life he was living in an the world of his imagination, created to ease his pain, but he is most excited about learning to live in the reality as his true self ... 

FROM THE BOOK - TRANSFORMING FAMILIES: REAL STORIES ABOUT TRANSGENDERED LOVED ONES

Article appeared in Polare 30, April 1999

Steve just turned eleven. His life revolves around rocketry, soccer, and improvising stand-up comedy routines in the kitchen. His parents are concerned about the changes puberty will bring, because they know how distressed he will be when breasts begin to develop ... 

... AND HIS INVOLVEMENT IN THE ESTABLISHMENT OF F.T.M. CONNECT

Article appeared in Polare 85, October 2010

Warren is a twenty year-old trans man who has been involved in the establishment of the Gender Centre's new F.T.M. support group,F.T.M. Connect and Still Fierce, a sex and gender diverse collective, a new collective for all sex and gender diverse people ... 

I'VE ALWAYS BEEN A MAN, THOUGHT LIKE ONE, WALKED LIKE ONE, SPOKEN LIKE ONE

Article appeared in Polare 25, June 1998

Michael has always been a man, thought like one, walked like one, spoken like one. The only trouble was that since puberty he's had breasts and menstruated every month, which made hiding harder yet everyone still expected him to stop being a tomboy and act like a lady ... 

I HAVE, SINCE I CAN REMEMBER, BEEN A BOY

Article appeared in Polare 23, February 1998

Phil was what his family considered a tomboy, a passing phase they wrongly believed. But despite well-meaning attempts by his family, he knew that nothing could change him, he was just a boy. Yet Phil's sexual interests, his sexual interest in men confused him ...

WHICH WORDS DO I CHOOSE, AND WHY? AS A SELF-NAMED MAN, HOW DO I NAME MYSELF?

Article appeared in Polare 59, September 2004

When Bugsy decided to change his name, the choice of a new name seemed straight forward. He formally adopted the nickname almost everyone knew him by, added a surname which meant something to him for a few reasons, notified the relevant authorities, and that was that ... 

GRAPPLING WITH MY INTENSE FEELING OF REALLY BEING A MALE

Article appeared in Polare 29, February 1999

Kitt met Jessica at a new job late in 1990.Over the ensuing weeks they shared confidences, Kitt that she was lesbian, Jessica that she was born male. It was a revelation for Kitt. Finally there was someone who knew what she was feeling when she said she felt like a male ... 

 
 
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