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History tells us that relationships in which one of the partners discloses their transgender status, or their intentions to transition, can experience some turbulence that may unfortunately become the catalyst for some uncertain outcomes. This is true not only for intimate relationships with partners, but also relationships between the transgender person and their parents, their siblings, their children, extended family and friends.

Fortunately, a number of trans guys and their partners, family and friends have kindly put pen to paper in an attempt to make life easier for those who follow in their footsteps and encounter similar issues in their relationships that they already have.

Oftentimes the relationships that transgender people share with their loved ones strengthen following disclosure of the innermost feelings expressed by the trans person. Time given to listen and understand each other is of the utmost importance, and this goes for all relationships, not only those involving partners.

Support Information is available for download from The Gender Centre, and are available in PDF format. You will need Adobe Acrobat Reader or similar to view and print P.D.F. files. If you don't have Acrobat Reader you can download it for free at the Adobe website.

ADJUSTING AND ADAPTING TO A PARENT'S TRANSITION

Article appeared in Polare 1, September 1993

As a 17 year old female who is travelling through puberty, when I was first informed of my parent's decision to change gender from female to male, I was devastated and shocked. It's an extraordinary step to take, yet I personally find it confusing and difficult ...

TWO DIFFERENT EXPERIENCES

Article appeared in Polare 24, April 1998

Pat is the father of a female-to-male adult child, and Lisa is the male-to-female transsexual parent of two young boys. Both have had to deal with challenging issues in their lives and both express a rewarding experience as they deal with their loved ones ... 

I AM WHAT I AM, BUT WHAT AM I?

Article appeared in Polare 28, December 1998

Jane has been an out Lesbian for over twenty years and involved in a monogamous relationship for over ten. She thought that she had seen it all until her then-lover informed her that she had always wanted to be a man. She shares her experiences in this article ...

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AND TRANSGENDER

Article appeared in Polare 80, July 2009

The Inner City Legal Centre introduces the 'Safe Relationships Project', an initiative that aims to provide a new domestic violence advocacy, information and referral service, a specialist service that offers court assistance and support for transgender people ... 

JESSICA AND ANDREW TIE THE KNOT

Article appeared in Polare 53, August 2003

In May 2003 Jessica and Andrew legalised their relationship beginning with a Commitment Service at the Wayside Chapel followed by a Nuptial Mass in full Ecumenical Catholic splendour. As far they are aware this may be the first legal wedding between two transsexuals ... 

STORIES OF HEARTACHE AND TRIUMPH, CONFUSION AND CLARIFICATION, FINDING IDENTITIES AND TRANSCENDING LABELS

Article appeared in Polare 71, April 2007

What happens when people in a same-sex relationship come out as transgender?The people involved in this article express their, and their partner's stories of heartache and triumph, confusion and clarification, finding identities and transcending labels ... 

... AND THINGS NOT TO SAY ON A DATE

Article appeared in Polare 38, August 2000

So you see a cute guy and ask your friends who he is, they whisper that he was once a woman, yet the more you look at him, the more interested you are. How do you approach someone like him and what if you actually do get him interested? What do you do with him then? ...

MEANT FOR EACH OTHER FROM THE BEGINNING

Article appeared in Polare 72, July 2007

Depending on where we pick up Mike and Natasha's amazing story, it all traces back to their high school years. Both transgender. Both participating in an online chat room, they discover that they both attended the same high school and have since formed a relationship ... 

MY CHILDREN HAVE ACCEPTED THIS JOURNEY BETTER THAN ANYONE ELSE

Article appeared in Polare 86, January 2011

Jayke is transgender, female to male, gender-queer and bisexual. His thirteen-year-old son and four-year-old daughter have accepted his transition better than anyone. They are able to see the joy, confidence and contentedness he has found in being truly his whole self ...

TOGETHER DESPITE MUCH TRAUMA

Article appeared in Polare 46, June 2002

Sam, a 33yo F.T.M. and Rachel, a 29yo M.T.F.have been legally married for the past eight years. Sam is also Rachel's full time carer. In this article they talk about life together, Rachel's, quadriplegia, schizophrenia and post-traumatic stress disorder ... 

VALUABLE LESSONS OF LOVE AND HAPPINESS

Article appeared in Polare 20, August 1997

Inspired to share her valuable lessons about love and happiness, this is the story of Kas'F.T.M. journey through his lesbian partner's eyes. Kas told her of his intentions early on, but she still had trouble contemplating a future and wrestled with her own sexuality ... 

HOW TO MAKE BABIES IN A TRANSGENDER RELATIONSHIP

Article appeared in Polare 84, July 2010

As society and governments slowly change their attitudes toward same sex and transgender relationships, Registered Nurse Maggie Smith takes a look at how to make babies in a transgender relationship including sperm-banking/semen-cryopreservation and egg-banking/oocyte-cryopreservation ... 

 
 
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